Despite my experience with recovery and the 12 Steps, when difficulties arise, I still occasionally catch myself falling into old thought patterns. Some of those thoughts are a gut-level emotional response to the situation. Some are my attempt to find a quick solution to a problem. Neither is particularly productive nor useful. Fortunately, my experience with … Read More
Valentine’s day is a great day for those of us in recovery to remember those around us. Have you shown your love to someone today? Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the romance of Valentine’s day, we simply forget the human desire to be loved. You don’t have to be in a relationship to … Read More
If you’ve been careful to take time for yourelf and your personal growth after your initial treatment in recovery, then when the right person comes along, you’ll be able to more successfully enter into a long-lasting, fulfilling relationships. But remember. . . Serious Relationships Take Serious Work As the relationship progresses, you should open up … Read More
It is generally not a good idea to enter into a dating relationship if you’ve just started your recovery. . . but knowing how to handle a breakup in recovery is a good thing to know too. The reality is that at some point you will probably start dating someone in recovery and knowing how … Read More
Focus on Fixing Your Life, Not on Finding Love People with a healthy view of relationships are not obsessed with finding love. When you’re spending all your time looking for someone to date, you aren’t spending the necessary time working on your own life to become a better person to date. Maintaining a healthy relationship requires … Read More
The family at Duffy’s would like to wish you and your loved ones a very happy Chinese New Year! This year’s animal is the year of the snake. If you will turning 12, 24, 48, 60, 72 (or any multiple of 12!) then this is your year! Background The date of Chinese New Year is … Read More
Even though many of us in recovery are lonely, jumping into a dating relationship isn’t always the wisest idea. Dating in recovery can actually easily trigger a relapse—or a new addiction to relationships. Because It’s easy for relationships to become just as addictive as substance abuse, it is not uncommon for those just starting out … Read More
So you’re in recovery and you’re getting your life back on track. You’re making progress in your personal growth and you’re dying to know “is it safe to start dating yet?” While there is no magic formula to tell you when you can successfully wade back into the waters of romance, if you want to … Read More
The 49ers have arrived in New Orleans, home of the 2013 Super Bowl. Their arrival will eventually climax into one of the most anticipated moments of the year. You know, that moment when half of the American population will be glued to the big screen, watching Kaepernick lead the 49ers to victory (or so we … Read More
