Alcoholism: A Three-Fold Disease
I once heard someone say in a meeting, “Alcoholism is a three-fold disease: Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s.”
And for newbies in recovery, that pretty much sums up how we feel about the disease of addiction—especially at this time of year.
Why? Because holidays are a mixed bag of conflicting emotions and desires. We want to enjoy ourselves and stay sober at the same time. We want to be a part of the celebration while distancing ourselves from triggers without making it awkward. We want to focus on the meaning of the holiday without worrying about the holiday.
Preparing for the Holidays
And as the first of the Big Three come upon us, we want to be prepared. Thankfully, there are many resources to help and encourage you during the holidays, and the online sober community is one of them.
Wisdom from our Sober Community on Twitter
I recently came across a conversation on Twitter on this subject. (Who knew, right? There’s all kinds of support out there!) Participants answered nine questions about gratitude and the challenges of Thanksgiving Day, and the top answers were compiled into a slide share. People gave some valuable insights, and I encourage you to read through all the comments in the slideshare below.
For those of you who have to rush out to take the green beans out of the oven, I’ve highlighted some of my favorite Q&A’s below.
What can I do to keep myself safe over the holidays?
- Find a meeting where you’ll be traveling, BEFORE you get there.
- If you have nothing to do, that’s because your mind is telling you there is nothing to do. Find some servicework.
- Watch the parade and make a sober party of your own.
- Plan activities other than just sitting around and gabbing.
How can I deal with the challenges of staying sober?
- Keep your expectations realistic, so you don’t set yourself up for an emotional letdown.
- Make a plan to deal with cravings.
- Have a plan B.
- Stay connected wtih sober supports.
- Help other addicts.
- Limit the amount of times you spend with relatives who make you crazy.
- Be honest. It’s ok to say “no” or tell someone that I’m in recovery.
- If you put your soda/water down when you go to the restroom, get a fresh one when you return, just in case someone topped it off.
What can I do to remain grateful?
- Being of service.
- By helping another alcoholic or addict, because doing that keeps my ego grounded.
View the full Thanksgiving Conversation here.
Community in Recovery
As you’ve noticed, becoming part of a community, reaching out to help others, and staying connected with your AA family is a reoccurring theme for staying sober on the holidays.
If you would like become part of recovery community, Duffy’s welcomes you to become a part of our online family. Join our facebook group, sign up for a free hummer, or share your story with us on our guest blog.
We welcome you and your family to partner with us on the journey of hope and healing—through the holidays and throughout the years.